In a surprising twist, a couple planning their wedding at a remote resort have proposed an unconventional arrangement - asking their guests to collectively prepare all the meals for the three-day event. This unorthodox request has sparked a heated debate, with some questioning the fairness and feasibility of the couple's expectations.

Unconventional Wedding Plans Raise Eyebrows

Destination Wedding with a Twist

The couple in question have decided to host their wedding at a resort they frequent, which comes with a hefty price tag. With a minimum stay of three days and a nightly rate of at least $300, the financial burden on guests is already significant. However, the couple has taken it a step further by proposing that the wedding party and guests collectively stock the kitchens and prepare all the meals for the duration of the event.

Guests Balk at the Extensive Demands

One guest, who shared the couple's plans on the popular "Am I The A——" forum on Reddit, expressed their concerns about the excessive demands being placed on attendees. They noted that the "least amount of money someone would spend to attend this wedding would be $1200 between the cabin, food and gas" - a substantial sum that exceeds the typical wedding gift. The guest felt that this was too much to ask of 40-60 people, and they were not alone in their sentiment.

Couple Defends Their Unconventional Approach

The couple, however, remains steadfast in their expectations. They have stated that if guests are not willing to take on the responsibility of cooking and catering the event, they "don't deserve to be at the wedding." This unyielding stance has further alienated the guest, who worries that others may feel the same way and ultimately decline the invitation.

Divided Opinions on the Couple's Proposal

The debate surrounding the couple's proposal has elicited a range of responses from the online community. Some agree with the guest, noting that the couple's demands are excessive and that "the reception is a party hosted by the couple or their parents. Food and drink should be provided FOR the guests, not expecting the guests to buy and make the food themselves." Others, however, argue that the couple is entitled to plan the wedding they desire, though they should not "hold it against people if they decide that they won't/can't the time, energy, or money that is required of them to participate."

Balancing Expectations and Hospitality

The crux of the issue lies in the delicate balance between the couple's vision for their wedding and the reasonable expectations of their guests. While the couple may have the right to plan their event as they see fit, the financial and logistical burden they are placing on their guests may be too much to bear. As one commenter noted, the couple should be "very clear in the invitation suite what their expectations are" to ensure that guests are fully informed and can make an informed decision about their participation.