The author, a self-described Gen-X cis male, grew up idolizing the prankster dude-bro humor of figures like David Letterman and Bill Murray. However, he finds the toxic masculinity permeating his 13-year-old son's online world to be far more insidious. YouTubers and TikTok personalities promote a brand of humor laced with misogyny, homophobia, and racism, leaving the author uneasy about the influences shaping his son's worldview.
The author's initial reaction to the "Midwestern dad" branding of Tim Walz, the Democratic VP candidate's running mate, was one of skepticism. The "dad" label often carries negative connotations, suggesting a sense of uncoolness and clumsiness. However, the author soon realizes that Walz's masculinity defies these stereotypes, offering a refreshing blend of kindness, wit, and an unwillingness to tolerate bullshit.
As the author observes Walz's interactions, he comes to the realization that the Minnesota governor embodies a new, more nuanced form of masculinity. Walz is not the stereotypical "nice guy" or the smug, offensive asshole, but rather a "turbo dude" who navigates the tightrope between lovable nerd and sharp-tongued bully-buster. His ability to be both respectful and willing to push back against jerks resonates with the author, who sees shades of his beloved Letterman and Murray in Walz's approach.
The author's son, Charlie, is still drawn to the aggressive, crass humor of his online role models. However, the author sees glimmers of hope in the way Charlie responds to Walz's brand of masculinity. The governor's ability to gently mock his daughter's vegetarianism, deliver a well-timed one-liner, and embrace his inner nerd seems to spark something in the young teenager, suggesting a potential shift in the way he perceives and emulates masculinity.
The author reflects on a tweet that captures the absurdity of the "alpha male" construct, likening it to a made-up upper class that men have placed themselves in. Tim Walz, in the author's eyes, is the living embodiment of this sentiment, upending traditional ideals of masculinity and presenting a refreshing alternative that is both kind and unapologetically confident.
As the author navigates the challenges of raising a teenage son in a world saturated with toxic masculine role models, he finds hope in the emergence of figures like Tim Walz. By embodying a new brand of masculinity that celebrates kindness, wit, and a willingness to stand up to bullies, Walz offers a model for the next generation of men to aspire to. The author's journey, and his son's evolving perspective, suggest a promising path towards a more equitable and inclusive future.